• Social media marketing

    7 career lessons I wished I learned earlier

    My first job(s) sucked. I hated every single day. I dreaded getting out of bed early in order to sit at a desk from 9-5. Not only did I feel like my knowledge and effort wasn’t appreciated, I felt like I had no control over my work environment. It wasn’t until years later, I realized why I was unhappy. I really wish I had learned these 7 things before I started working!

    Why your first job sucks

    The first 22-24 years of our life is pretty simple: primary school, middle/high school, college, and then graduation! We all know what is expected of us, namely get good grades, pass the tests and move on to the next grade until you’re finished. Once you get the hang of this system, it kind of becomes easy.

    Once you graduate, you step into the real adult world: getting a job. And here’s the tricky part. We’ve been lead to believe that school prepares us for doing the job. Although school teaches us basic human life skills, like socializing, speaking in public and taking responsibility, most of what we do is focused on education and theory. Even though this knowledge gives you a head start in your career, it’s not enough to make you successful in your job. We’re not taught how to think, act, behave and feel in our new job environment.

    The new kid, the recent graduate, the rookie

    After years of build up – from preschooler to master student – you feel on top of the world. Graduating university, at least for me, was euphoric. You feel accomplished and ready to take on the world! Then all of a sudden you’re back at the bottom of the ladder, where you started in preschool, at your new job. You’re the new kid, the recent graduate, the rookie. And it’s precisely that feeling that crashes your big hopes and dreams.

    That is why your first job sucks.

    Now, let me save you years of your time by giving you 7 lessons I learned in my first years so that you can excel to the top a lot quicker than I did!

    Lesson 1: Nothing in business is life or death

    Unless you work as a healthcare professional, nothing in business is life or death. No one dies if you send that email a day later than expected. No one dies if you didn’t quite make the deadline. No one dies if you make a spelling mistake in that super important pitch.

    So. fucking. what.

    Colleagues and bosses tend to create pressure bubbles. Everything needs to be done today before 5. Everything is important. To me, this is a BIG red flag. RUN.

    Listen, if you’ve worked with me, you know I love a good deadline. I thrive in high performance offices. But what I don’t appreciate is stress, anxiety and perfectionism. At the end of the day, we’re all still human. We make mistakes. Your job is to own those mistakes. Honestly admit you didn’t make the deadline because you had trouble managing your time. Admit you forgot to spell check your presentation.

    Your employers’ job is to create a safe work environment so that you can make these mistakes without feeling like a complete failure and like it’s your fault the company is not succeeding. You can hold them accountable for that.

    Lesson 2: You are definitely going to fuck up

    Yeah, there’s no easy way to tell you, but there comes a time you are going to totally, utterly fuck up. Big time. Unlike the little mistakes in the lesson above, this mistake actually costs the company damage.

    And it’s totally OK.

    I’d lie if I said I didn’t have sleepless nights over my fuck up. I accidentally erased a huge database days before a deadline. A database that me and my colleagues had worked on for days. I cried in my boss’ office. I felt SO guilty. There was no way to reverse it, but to do the work all over again.

    There really is no way around this fuck up. It’s going to happen at one point in your career. You might as wel be prepared for it to happen. Again, you need to own up to the mistake. Take responsibility. Whatever you do: don’t blame others and don’t hide. Be an adult! Your boss needs to acknowledge that you meant no harm. He/she needs to take the necessary measurements to help you fix the situation and defend you from people that are higher up.

    Lesson 3: Treat your salary like an objective number

    If you don’t make as much money as your friends, you’re not less of a person. If you make more than you’re friends, you’re not better than them either. Your salary doesn’t determine the value you bring to the work space, and it also doesn’t define your worth. Salary is highly dependent on the industry, country, company (size), field and position you work in. You could be doing the exact same job at a small firm that you would at a large corporate, and still be paid half, even though you work twice as hard.

    Question is: how do you value yourself?

    If you’re working 40+ hours a week, answering phone calls in the weekend and taking on more responsibility for minimum wage – then that’s totally ok. As long as you’re ok with it!

    Just know that your time and energy = money. How much money is your time and energy worth to YOU? This highly differs per person. If you earn minimum wage but are extremely happy in your job, there isn’t an issue. But if you feel drained, sad, unmotivated, unable to reach your personal goals (like buying a house in this economy) or like you’re giving more than you receive, it’s time to reevaluate your situation.

    How do you get a raise? By working on yourself and showing your managers that you are WORTH the money. Take on more responsibility, take ownership, brush up skills/knowledge, be proactive and track your process. Once you have the proof, you can step to your manager confidently and ask them for more money. Don’t ask, prove!

    Lesson 4: Boundaries are a blessing, learn how to play the corporate game

    In the beginning of your career, you’re driven. You want to prove to anyone and everyone that you can do the job. This often results in staying late, saying yes to all projects, answering emails at night and showing up to every office party. This is fun until you reach the point of no return. All of a sudden, every responsibility is on your plate. People start to see you as the rookie who’s always willing and able to do the work, so they leave it all to you.

    What you don’t see, is that people in a corporate office usually play a subconscious political office game. I call it corporate chess because it’s a strategic game. This is what it comes down to: people only care about the things they are being held accountable for, which is their job description. How well they perform the tasks in their job description is what determines their assessment interview at the end of the year. It also determines their success and salary. The people who play this game are very aware of the tasks that are in scope. Everything outside of that – even if it technically should be their responsibility – is not interesting to them. Why? Because it doesn’t contribute to a positive performance review.

    So this is how it works: these people are great at what they do because the solely focus on their core tasks. All the other activities that are not their main priorities are left on the table. Only for you to pick them up willingly in order to impress your boss in hopes of a raise.

    This is why it works against you: you take on too much responsibility, are unable to deliver maximum results, are stressed out and feel like your colleagues are not supportive. The lesson here? Stop biting off more than you can chew. Stop enabling your colleagues to slack. Do what you are hired to do, and do it well.

    Lesson 5: Manage expectations at all times

    The best business advice I’ve ever gotten was from a previous manager. He would always say “business is just managing expectations”. This was at my third job. I had no idea what he meant at the time. But boy, did these words make an impact on my career, my wellbeing and life in general.

    Next to setting up your boundaries, you have to let others know what they can expect from you. This eliminates 90% of your work stress – guaranteed!! Be very clear. Say: “Hey Jim, I know you asked me to get the numbers to you by Friday. However, it’s Wednesday and I’m noticing it’s taking me longer to complete this task successfully. I can get the statistics you asked for by Tuesday at the latest. Is that okay with you?”

    Bam. Crisis averted. Now the ball is in Jim’s court. If he really needs them by Friday, he either needs to find more people to help you or change the timeline on the project. You’re showing him you’re working hard, willing to cooperate and want the best results for all team members. It’s that simple.

    I’ve talked about managing expectations countless of times. You can listen to more examples on how to do it here.

    Lesson 6: Not everyone is your new work BFF

    Unfortunately, you’re not going to have a J.D. and Turk type of work relationship with all of your colleagues. I know that’s what Netflix series have shown you, but more often than not, your colleagues are not going to become your best friends.

    In order for a team to function properly, it’s important to get along, respect each other and have fun every now and again. However, treating all of your co-workers as your new BFFs with whom you share crucial information, like who you hooked up with last weekend, might not be wise. It’ll come back to haunt you.

    It’s super healthy to have 1 or 2 work besties that help you get through the day (and life). We all need those! Just make sure these are people you can trust with your TMI stories.

    Lesson 7: You are more than your resume!

    Last, very important lesson, you are more than your accomplishments! Don’t forget that. It’s easy to get caught up in a rat race. Showing off all of the projects you’ve completed, the clients you’ve helped, the money you’ve made. You are not just your career. Sure, your job plays a big part in your day-to-day life, but you’re also still a beautiful human soul!

    Invest in all aspects of your life: your relationships, hobbies, sports, spirituality, health, travel, dreams — whatever it is that makes you uniquely you. It’s super cliché, but we’re human beings not human doings, and therefore not defined by the things we do, but who we are. Strive to be a healthy, abundant, content, compassionate human being.

  • Career advice, Personal development

    Dealing with a void in your life

    In the past few weeks, I’ve talked to a few of you, and I heard the word “void” and the idiom “falling into a black hole” a couple of times. From personal experience, I can only describe the feeling of falling into a black hole as a period of pure hopelessness and confusion. It usually happens when one (or more) important things in your life suddenly end or fall apart: being fired, burnout, graduation, job hunting after ‘first job syndrome’, or not being able to execute your profession anymore due to (external) circumstances. Whatever it is, you have to deal with a void in your life and redefine your goals and purpose.

    What does this void feel like?

    When your circumstances change without warning, the world kind of crumbles around you. You’re left in this no man’s land, so to say. Let’s take being fired as an example as I have experienced this myself, and it’s easy to talk about. When fired, your daily routine changes from one day to the next. Your income changes. Your sense of purpose changes.

    At first you have this sea of time where you get to process your feelings about what just happened. Then slowly after a while you get used to the idea and new situation. But then, not much later, comes this big, black hole. Days are really long. You no longer have the energy or motivation to get out of bed because you’re not needed. You also lose a sense of direction in your life. You no longer know what your next move is going to be. You might even lose a piece of your identity.

    One thing’s for sure…

    You want this situation to end. Sometimes you have the strength to get out of the void by reading books, speaking to friends, and finding new energy in exercise. Other times…you need a nudge. Either way, you will get out of this situation. Take your time! You are right where you are supposed to be in life.

    In case you’re in a void right now, and you’re ready to get back on the horse, I’ve outlined the steps that helped me to recuperate.

    How to get out of no man’s land

    Remember there’s no timeline and that this is a process that varies per person. It also depends on how you got into the void in the first place. However, I do believe there are some main principles to follow if you want to leave no man’s land and get your sense of direction back. Here’s how I got out of my black holes (multiple times…).

    Goals, vision, dreams

    First things first – you need to know where you’re heading. There’s nothing more important to set a point on the horizon so that you can make decisions geared towards that goal. You can’t make empowered decisions if you don’t know where you’re headed.

    It’s time to go back to the drawing board. What is you 1, 5 and 10 year vision for yourself? Is there something you’ve always dreamed of doing?

    Don’t just write down your career goals. Better yet, leave those out at first. Answer questions like:

    • where do you see yourself living in 5 years?
    • what are your relationships like? Friends, family, romantic
    • what goals do you have concerning your health?
    • what goals do you have concerning your wealth?
    • what type of person do I aspire to be?

    After that, you can define career goals! What type of company do you see yourself working at? In what type of position? Who are you serving? What tasks are on your to-do list? Be as specific as possible. Visualize yourself living your best life. What does that look like?

    Leave victim mode behind…

    Whenever our life changes, it’s always easy to put the blame on others. “I was fired by my boss” or “my burnout happened because my boss kept pushing me over my limits” are easy to say. I’m going to be hard on you right now, but in my coaching practice, you only get to say this once or twice to blow off some steam, but then we’re done playing the victim. Why? Because as a grown adult, you are responsible for your own well-being, setting boundaries, personal development, happiness, success and life’s trajectory.

    Sure, being fired because the economy has been affected by the pandemic is not your responsibility. You can’t control that. However, you can control how deep you go into this black hole. You can also control your emotional reaction to it and how long you take to pick up the pieces in order to move on. Yes, it’s always easier to speak of things in hindsight — “I should have done this or I should have done that”. But that, too, is not going to help you move the situation along. That is why forgiveness is such a big piece of stepping out of victim mode. Forgiveness of others (aka your boss), but also forgiveness of yourself – you did the best you could in the situation with the knowledge, power and resources you had at that time.

    The beautiful thing about stepping out of victim mode is that you get to create a new life with your newfound knowledge. Now that you are aware of your ability to respond to situations, you get to be in the driver’s seat of your life and make decisions that empower you. You get to set boundaries that serve you!

    I could write a book about how liberating this feeling is and why it’s so important to take responsibility of your life. But for now, I’m going to leave it at this for the sake of the length of this blog.

    …and step into creation mode

    I like creation mode better than action mode, but essentially they’re the same thing. There’s only one way to say this: the only way to get out of the situation is to go through it. Nothing changes by listening to others, reading more books, watching more documentaries….It only changes by you DOING the things you said you wanted to do.

    Your next steps depend on your personal situation — and the goals you have defined for yourself. For some it’s applying to a new job, for others it’s starting a business. Again, you’re in the driver’s seat. You get to decide!

    Important for creation mode is breaking down larger goals into smaller steps. Take one large goal (‘finding a new job’) and create subtasks (i.e. do research, select 5 jobs, create resume, write motivation letter). Realistically schedule the different tasks.

    New habits = new life

    To stay in creation mode, you’ll need to put some new, healthy, successful habits in place. This can range from putting up boundaries to food, exercise, sleep, networking, communicating and less screen time. What do you need to achieve your new goals?

    Self-love for DAYS

    Maybe the most important on this list: self-love, compassion & patience. There’s no reason to get down on yourself during this process. If you’ve done the things above, you are already on your way to success. With anything in life, there are days you feel great and there are days when things aren’t going as planned. The most important thing is getting back on the horse!

    You can allow yourself a day on the couch to wallow. There’s nothing to feel guilty about. Down days are part of the process. Just make sure to re-commit every time!

    Make life easier and fun for yourself. Do things that make you happy! Balance is important. So after a day of working hard on your new goals, schedule in an hour or two to get back to yourself by doing things you enjoy. Reward yourself during the journey.

    Breathe <3

    Breathe – life has a way of working out. Always. Trust the process and trust yourself. It might feel as if you don’t have all the answers and you have no idea what your next steps are. But I promise that by stepping into creation mode with compassion for yourself is going to get you through. Do what you need to do: talk to professionals, talk to friends, read books/blogs, listen to podcasts, practice new skills….You get to decide your next steps!

    Let me know if you are at this point and need a little nudge! My inbox is open 24/7.

  • Career advice

    Don’t get overwhelmed by a job search

    Even in times of a pandemic, the job search continues and there are a 1000 jobs posted daily on platforms like LinkedIn, Indeed or Monsterboard. Choosing the right job can be really exhausting. You’re confronted with questions like: what do I actually want? And am I good enough for this job? So much so that looking for a job might be more stressful than staying in your current situation. Time to do something about that! In this post, I want to give you some tips on how to not get overwhelmed by a job search.

    Well, what DO you want?

    There’s always a reason you’re looking for a new job. Whether you’re unhappy in your current one. Or you just graduated and are ready for your first job. You must know why you are looking for a job. With that “why” comes a list of must haves and nice to haves. What are some of your non-negotiables?

    Consider these things for your must haves:

    • Size of the company
    • Job description
    • Culture
    • Salary
    • Working days/hours

    I’m sure there are more things you consider important, like the distance from your house or the size of your future team. Write down a list of things you absolutely look for in your next job.

    You might know all of the things you want – but are they actually good for you? Let me give you an example: you might want a job that pays a lot, but if that means you have to consistently do things you’re not comfortable with – is the money worth it? Is it worth the stress? If you’ve thought about it and answered yes – go ahead and apply. Otherwise, keep reading.

    “What am I supposed to do?”

    This question is in my top 5 FAQ. “Should I be a marketing manager or should I start my own business?”

    To be honest, it’s difficult to answer. As a coach, I can’t give you the answers, I can only ask you more (efficient) questions so that you get closer to your answer. However, there are a number of things to consider when you want to know what type of job gives you the most fulfilment.

    It takes a deep dive into your interests, skills, behavior, preferences, childhood, and life path to figure out what you are meant to be doing on this planet. To manage your expectations: it’s a process you’ll go through that can take anywhere from a week to a couple of years depending on your willingness to dive deep and take action. Use the Career Compass to guide you!

    Meet your enemy – fear gremlins

    My biggest pet peeve when it comes to job descriptions — is the fact that the employer lists this HUGE list of requirements. You need to have a degree, 10 years experience, extra certifications, speak 10 languages, be a fun-loving, friendly, supportive person who is able to generate 1 million in a month and juggle 20 projects at once without complaining.

    Ok, I’m exaggerating, but you understand what I’m saying, right?

    The first thought that comes to mind when reading the description is “am I that person?”.

    Am I good enough to do this job? Am I the one they’re looking for? I meet some requirements, but definitely not all. What if I can’t do the job? What if I get rejected? But what if I do get the job? What are their expectations of me? I’m sure I can meet some expectations, but not all – I’m not a fun-loving, friendly, supportive colleague all the time, I have my off days….

    So to sum it up, you are most likely dealing with a fear gremlin named “I’m not good enough”. The feeling of self-doubt is what causes the overwhelm. All of a sudden, you start questioning your previous accomplishments, your degree and your skills. Only because you can’t tick off every box in the description.

    It’s easier said than done, but the only way to get rid of that “I’m not good enough” voice is to face your fears, gain more confidence, and embody success.

    Fears create stress

    The reason the “I am not good enough” gremlin creates overwhelm and stress in your life is because it triggers a certain response in your body. At the root of stress is fear. Fears activate your fight, flight or freeze response. So whenever gremlin “I’m not good enough” pops up – even if you’re unaware of the fear – your brain and body react.

    Listen, you’re already under a lot of pressure. Work is busy, a social life is busy, keeping up with trends on social media is busy, finances are tough…and then, boom, pandemic…. We’re always busy. Always “on”. Adding the fear of “I’m not good enough” while job hunting then creates more havoc. And is probably the last straw that breaks the camel’s back.

    Hey, it’s ok!

    We’ve all experienced the above scenario at least once in our lives. Recognizing the situation for what it is, can sometimes be enough to “solve” the issue. Being aware of the fear gremlin is a big step in the right direction. From there you can take action steps to overcoming the fear. You’re human, you have feelings and fears. It’s all part of this beautiful experience! Embrace it.

    Just as Rome wasn’t built in a day, your fears won’t disappear overnight. And that’s ok! It’s a continuous process consisting of (small) daily actions that change your life over time. For example, if you feel like taking a course will allow you to become the next marketing manager, you’ll need to establish daily habits that allow you to finish the course (cum laude, of course ;)). Once you’ve finished the course and have proven to yourself that you are smart enough/good enough to apply for that position, your confidence rises. You’ll have enough ammunition to fight mr. fear gremlin!

    Don’t get overwhelmed by a job search

    Understanding the root of the problem – fear, insecurities, limiting beliefs, old patterns – is the key to success here. Once you’ve gained enough insight on these topics and what they mean to you, I promise you’ll be able to handle this situation.

    Now, for some practical tips:

    • JUST APPLY – even if you feel you are “underqualified”. You now know that’s not true. It’s mr. fear gremlin talking.
    • Understand that recruiters write these job descriptions thoroughly to weed out unmotivated job hunters.
    • Recruiters are required to list all the (impossible) requirements because their boss expects them to. It’s literally their job to find the best possible candidate. Obviously they’re going to write out high expectations so that they attract the right people.
    • The best possible candidate for a job is not someone who has all the written down requirements. The best possible candidate is someone with the right attitude and mindset (aka you). You see the job description & are up for the challenge. That’s what recruiters are looking for.
    • In fact, if I were a recruiter and I would receive an application from someone who ticks off all of the requirements, I would be skeptical. This person wouldn’t be able to grow in the position…?!
    • If you have enough experience to do >65% of the job description, it’s your sign: APPLY. You’ll learn the rest.
    • The job description is written so that you can grow into the position. Once you apply and get the job, it’s your mission to EMBODY the job description they gave you.
    • If you do get rejected after all of your effort – that’s not a reflection on you. They’re missing out. Life has bigger plans for you! The universe always knows best. Trust the process. Trust the timing of your life. Rejection is redirection.

    Grab a virtual coffee

    Listen, I’ve had 6 jobs in 5 years, and I’ve had over 24 job interviews in that time. This process is all too real for me. I am also living proof that you DO get to have a job that brings you joy and fulfilment…once you adopt a positive mindset & know your purpose. When you need me, you know where to find me!

    Much love from my side of the screen <3

  • Career advice, Personal development, Show notes

    How to make the right decision

    You’re at a crossroads. You either turn left. Or you turn right. But how do you know which direction to choose? Making the “right” decision is always a gamble. But there are a few ways to ensure you’re making a decision that is empowering you and that’ll lead you into your desired outcome. In this blog, I’ll give you some pointers on how to make the right decision. Whatever that means…

    If you’ve never read the fig tree metaphor from The Bell Jar, I highly recommend you do that now. It’s one of my favorite passages. It helped me come to terms with decision making.

    Indecision – as you can see in the metaphor above, leaves you with nothing.

    And I get it, making decisions is overwhelming. There are a million possible outcomes. Choosing one path sometimes means saying “no” to another beautiful opportunity. All figs in the fig tree are beautiful opportunities. By choosing one, you can have a wonderful next step in your life. Choosing none, means missing out on everything.

    What the fig tree taught me

    Nothing in life is certain, except for the fact that you come into this life and leave it. Everything inside of that time frame is a matter of choice. Everything is a choice. From big things like deciding to try for children to picking out your dinner in the supermarket. Every choice sets you one step further down a chosen path.

    The fig tree metaphor has shown me that it doesn’t matter what you choose, there will always be an outcome. Some more desirable than others, sure. But every choice leads me to a new branch, and eventually a fig.

    This metaphor has proven its value multiple times. Especially this year — the absolute shit show we call 2020. (Let’s not get into politics right now…but damn…what a year).

    How are you making decisions?

    When it comes to making decisions, one thing is certain: you have no certainty when it comes to the outcome. Learning to embrace the unknown is one of the first steps you’ll need to take in order to feel comfortable in your decision making process.

    However, we CAN look at the WAY you’re making decisions. What are your decisions based on? And what are your influences?

    Are you making decisions based on fear? Or are you making conscious, empowering decisions? This distinction might not always be so obvious. You might think you’re making empowering decisions for yourself, while objectively they’re all just fear based. The ability to raise your awareness and create a helicopter view of your problem in order to solve it is really crucial.

    What does a fear based decision look like?

    An example of a fear based decision would be not leaving your current job. Even though it makes you unhappy. Even though you snooze your alarm every morning, dreading to go to the office. You’re afraid of leaving because you don’t know what other jobs are available to you. You don’t know if the situation at a possible new job will be better or worse.

    You justify this decision in your head. Sure, work sucks. But doesn’t every job? Work isn’t supposed to be fun. It’s meant for making money. And right now, you’re making money. 

    Does this narrative sound familiar?

    There’s nothing wrong with staying in this situation. As long as you can justify it for yourself. It means you are choosing to stay in this place. However, what I often notice is that people in similar situations complain a lot. They complain about their boss. Their colleagues. The lunchlady. The hours. The constant overworking. The lack of opportunities. And the endless wait for a raise and promotion.

    Now this to me, doesn’t add up. If you dislike this situation so much, why are you CHOOSING to stay in it. Yup, it’s a decision to go to that workplace every single day.

    So now, if you do have the guts to change your situation – how would that look like?

    What does empowered decision making look like?

    An empowered decision is a decision that aligns with your values, beliefs and vision. An empowered decision is one made from a place of strategy and proactiveness rather than being reactive to your circumstances. An empowered decision focuses on growth. And yes, growth is uncomfortable.

    How to make the right decision

    Ok, so far we’ve established that in order to make the “right” decision (whatever the outcome is…) is at least an empowered one. Now how do you make the right decision?

    You face your fears

    Define what you’re afraid of. Grab a piece of paper and a pen. Just write down everything that comes to mind. What scares you so much about this decision? Why are you hesitating or procrastinating? There is no “right” or “wrong” answer. It’s just you expressing your fears.

    If you can, determine what caused these fears. Dive deeper into the meaning you are giving these fears. You can learn how to do that in this blog/podcast.

    You map out your vision

    Where do you want to be in 5 years? Where do you want to be in 10 years? What does your ideal future look like?

    Now match your decisions to your vision. Are you making choices that reflect and support your vision? Or are you sabotaging yourself?

    Reverse engineer your goal. What do you need to do today, this month, this year in order to achieve this vision?

    You define your values and beliefs

    What do you believe to be true about yourself? What do you believe to be true about work? Money? Relationships? Opportunities?

    The beliefs you hold true about certain areas in life is how you show up in the world. It’s what you base your choices on.

    If you believe your social-economic status determines your success and happiness in life, you’ll apply for jobs that’ll heighten your status, for example. In your head, the higher the title or the more the job pays = the better.

    * Disclaimer – there is NOTHING wrong with that belief. No beliefs are every “right” or “wrong”. It’s just a story you tell yourself because you’ve been conditioned to think this way. Either by your upbringing, culture, religion, the media etc. You’ve been made to believe something is the truth. We all have. So don’t worry. Just focus on uncovering the unconscious beliefs you have. Need help with that? Watch this webinar.

    You get comfortable with the uncomfortable

    Yup. Growth is fucking uncomfortable. It’s scary. It’s uncertain. It feels like you’re running around like a chicken without its head.

    Funny thing is: this will never get any easier. The only thing you can do is embrace it. Be ok with it. Trust yourself. Trust life. Generate more self confidence.

    If you do need certainty, talk to people who’ve experienced similar situations. Read autobiographies of famous people who’ve overcome some of the biggest hurdles. Share your uncertainty with loved ones who can provide support. Journal – get to know your thought patterns. Write down a list of 25 things you’ve already accomplished in this life. Celebrate your wins! You’ve definitely got this.

    Need help at the crossroads?

    If you find yourself in a difficult situation right now, feel free to reach out. Sometimes just talking about an issue with an outsider, lightens the load. It might also give you insight you might have overlooked. Someone from the outside, who is not emotionally connected to your situation, is able to uncover the objective truth behind your fears and indecision.

    Just know – you are right where you’re meant to be. Trust yourself. Surrender to the process & timing. Be open to receiving guidance & miracles.

    Much love from my side of the screen, as always!

  • Health, Personal development, Spirituality

    How to overcome your biggest fears

    Success is on the other side of fear. But what fears do you have anyway? Can you pinpoint the moment a fear became your truth? In this blog I’ll cover how you can identify your fears and how to overcome them.

    What is fear anyway?

    The word fear is often misinterpreted. When I talk about fear, I’m not talking about “being afraid of something”. Fear, in the way that I mean it, is an emotional reaction to something your ego finds dangerous. Overcoming fear to succeed means acknowledging risk, but stepping out of your comfort zone anyway in order to grow.

    There’s a difference in having arachnophobia and having a fear of rejection.

    What types of fear do you (sub)consciously have?

    Some fears are very prominent in our lives. Others live under the surface of our conscious mind. We may not be aware of them until we take a closer look at our behavior.

    One of the fears that has come up for me in the last couple of weeks is fear of judgement. The recent changes in my business and incorporating spirituality into my coaching has led to some mixed reactions. I started to doubt myself and felt held back posting content about my new direction. What would people say and think of me? This manifested itself in me being less active on social media and not showing up the way I wanted to.

    At first I thought it was procrastination or me being “busy”. But once I didn’t accept that as my answer, I dug deeper into the source – which led me to fear of judgement.

    That just shows us there are many different fears we are unaware of. Here are just a few:

    • Fear of failure
    • Fear of vulnerability
    • Fear of rejection
    • Fear of not being good enough
    • Fear of being alone/not being accepted

    All of the fears above, are acquired fears. These fears are present in your life because you had a (negative) experience. The good news? You can overcome these fears by facing them!

    Side note: these fears are different from appropriate fears – that’s usually your intuition telling you you’re in danger (like the fear of walking through a dark ally). These fears serve and protect you.

    What fear looks like in the day-to-day

    Unlike arachnophobia, you probably won’t acutely hyperventilate at the thought of judgement or rejection. You’ll feel a knot in your stomach, but you won’t run around the house crying, shivering and calling your dad to ask if he can remove the spider for you. (*this actually happens when I come in contact with an eight-legged individual).

    So then, how do you know you have a fear of something?!

    Since fears are very personal, I can best describe a few to you using real life examples.

    Fear of failure: When you have a fear of failure, you could express that by overcompensating in work. You want things to be perfect all the time. You work over hours trying to prove yourself. You’re afraid that if you don’t do XYZ, the project won’t be perfect and you won’t succeed. This, in turn, can turn into perfectionism.

    Fear of failure also manifests itself in not taking action. You stay in the same job, same position, same relationship because you are afraid of trying something new. You don’t trust yourself & the outcome, therefore you don’t take action.

    Fear of rejection: When you have a fear of rejection, you might not feel comfortable approaching new people – whether that’s for dating or meeting new friends. Maybe you won’t apply for the job you want because you’re afraid of not getting it.

    Fear of being alone, not being accepted: If you have a fear of being alone or not being accepted, you might be a people pleaser. You want people to like you and may jump through hoops to be accepted. Your intention to belong comes from your fear instead of truly wanting to connect with others. You could also show signs of being a serial dater.

    There are many different ways fear shows up in your life. Try to figure out for yourself where you feel the most resistance in your life and what the underlying fear might be.

    Where does this fear come from?

    Since these fears are acquired, they stem from an experience. This experience can be anything from childhood trauma to something that happened later in life. Maybe your parents made a comment, someone left/abandoned you or maybe you were bullied. Whatever the reason, you interpreted the situation as bad/negative. You stored that in your brain & it became your story.

    Go back to the moment(s) where this fear became a truth for you.

    Forgive yourself for misinterpreting this situation. You handled the situation to the best of your abilities. You didn’t have the knowledge you have today. Acknowledge the feeling, give it a special place in your life, and heal yourself. This fear is a product of an experience you had. No more, no less.

    How to overcome your biggest fears

    Ok, now let’s get to work. There are ways to overcome your biggest fears. It’s a process that takes (daily) practice. If you want to overcome your fear for good, you’ll need to change some habits.

    Step 1: We already covered step 1 – that’s identifying your fears and forgiving yourself for having them.

    Step 2: Find out how the fear manifests in your life. How does it show up? Are you serial dating, job hopping, hiding, rebelling, being defensive, not speaking up? What happens in your day-to-day life that is a product of your fear?

    Step 3: Let’s make a list of what having this fear is costing you. What are some thing you can’t do or achieve because of your fear? Name the things you are not doing or don’t have. This can be anything tangible like money, a healthy relationship or a job. But also think about bigger issues that it’s costing you like happiness, mental health or the ability to connect to others authentically.

    Step 4: Now write down the “what ifs”. What if you didn’t have this fear? What would your life look like? What could you achieve? What are the possibilities? GO BIG on this one. Dream big!

    Step 5: Ok, time to take action. Now that you have a clear vision of what it’s costing you and what your life could look like, you need to design daily action steps. What can you do today to move the needle forward? What task can you put on your to-do list today that is going to help you overcome your fear? For example: posting your opinion on Instagram 3x per week, journal once a day, take a walk every morning.

    Don’t make these steps too small. The point is to feel the fear, but to do it anyway!

    Step 6: No, we’re not done yet. Schedule in your to-do’s! It’s one thing to write down your action steps. But you also need to secure you actually do them. Make space in your daily routine for these action steps. And if you can, hire a coach to hold you accountable and keep you motivated.

    When fears no longer hold you back…

    I’ve noticed that by working through my own fears, I am more aligned with my purpose. I feel free. I do things because they are good for me. I don’t make excuses. I have more energy. I live MY life the way the universe has intended me to. I also see signs from my spirit guides everywhere – 11:11, 22:22, 22:11, white butterflies and the color yellow.

    The process isn’t easy. It can cause some heavy emotions to come up. I believe the most important part is the healing (step 1). Everyone has fears. But not everyone confronts them, causing them to live a life of mediocrity. A life of pleasing others. A life of disconnect. I honor you for looking deeper into your fears. For being brave enough to look them in the eye!

    I promise that life rewards you for your bravery.

    Let me know how this process unfolds for you and what your journey looks like. I would love to hear your story.

    Much love from my side of the screen! Namaste.

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    How to stop job hopping and find your perfect job

    Do you find yourself changing jobs (at least) once a year? I did. Especially when I just graduated university. No job satisfied me and I regularly found myself scrolling through indeed.com while at work. In this post, I’ll tell you how I broke the cycle and how to stop job hopping. I’ll give you some action steps that will help you find the perfect position.

    Job hopping – why I’m a fan

    Many people – mostly older recruiters – will tell you job hopping looks bad on your resumé. And while I understand that it looks like you might have commitment issues, job hopping can be super beneficial for a number of reasons:

    • you get to experience multiple work environments, so you’ll better know what suits you best (and what you absolutely want to avoid)
    • you build a network quickly
    • you can earn more money (asking for a higher salary with each new job)
    • you learn a bunch of new skills

    Job hopping can be a lot of fun, if – however – you do it because of the reasons above. Unhealthy job hopping looks a bit different. And I’ll tell you my story…

    Unhealthy job hopping – what does it look like?

    Let me paint you my picture. And maybe you’ll recognize yourself in this pattern….

    Month 1 – 3

    In the first 3 months I was always mega excited about my new job! They were pure bliss. New office, new colleagues, new rhythm, new cafeteria food. I got to know my colleagues outside of work by getting coffee or drinks. In most jobs, the first 3 months equaled not having a lot of responsibilities either since I was new and couldn’t possibly know everything that was going on. So I’d just do the things asked of me and shut down the computer at 5pm to go home.

    Month 4 – 6

    During these months, the speed usually picked up. I got my own projects and started playing a larger role within the team. This was the time I got to “prove” myself. At first I would always enjoy this stage of my job because the work itself started to become more challenging (aka fun).

    However, in the later part of this stage, some sh*t would go down. Something along the lines of my boss calling me out because of a mistake I made, having my first disagreement with a colleague or truly failing at a project. Whatever it was, it kept me up at night. For weeks at a time. I’d have a knot in my stomach going to the office.

    This was usually my breaking point.

    Month 6 – 9

    Months 6 through 9 mostly consisted of me bitching about my job to anyone who’d hear it. My friends, family, work friends, and my cat. During this phase, I would be completely aware of the office politics and I’d knew how to navigate the game. But the job itself was already ruined for me because of months 4-6. I started getting bored with the projects, the environment and people.

    Month 10 – 12

    After moaning for 3 months and talking it over with many people, I would usually decide to start looking for another job at this stage. There was just no going back. I would always go to work excited again because of the prospect of finding a new adventure. Because I was applying for multiple jobs, I’d have this “I-don’t-give-a-f*ck” attitude at work. Which made me one of the worst team members. I would no longer care about getting work done on time….or even at all.

    Until one day, I’d get the good news that I’d been hired by a new company!

    And this cycle would repeat all over again. No exception.

    Let me tell you. I’ve kept up this pattern for about 5 years. Some jobs lasted a year, others didn’t even make the 6 month cut.

    Reflecting on choices

    At one point, maybe after my second job – I started to wonder:

    • Why am I unable to invest in a job/company?
    • Why am I always bored/annoyed after 6 months?
    • Did I choose the right education?
    • Is there something I can do to change my behavior?
    • What is it I actually want to do?
    • What is my purpose?
    • What is my why?
    • Why did God put me on this planet?

    You know, the usual quart-life crisis questions. But if I wanted to succeed in my career (and life) I really needed the answers. That’s where it was time to dig deep.

    Here’s how to stop job hopping

    First, let me start by saying that this is a process. A process that can take years. And that’s totally ok <3.

    Upgrade your mindset

    You can’t change life, but you can change the way you react to it. It all starts by upgrading your mindset. You need to look at yourself critically and define what your beliefs are around the key areas in your life: work & career, love, health, finances, family & friends and yourself. What stories have you been telling yourself around these topics? Which stories empower you to get the best out of yourself? And what stories can you upgrade or unlearn in order to level up?

    Getting out of victim mode (I am upset because….) and stepping into my personal power was one of the biggest changes I made in the beginning. Stop blaming outside sources of your anger, sadness, stress and discomfort. Take responsibility for everything that happened in your life.

    Get to know yourself

    “Know thyself” is the MOST powerful thing you can do for yourself. Knowing who you are, how you act, what triggers you, how you come across to others etc. – can help you navigate life.

    There are many different ways to get to know yourself. Look at your personality type, for example. You can take the Myers-Briggs test (cognitive functions) or look into your Enneagram. Although your personality type is not set in stone, it does give you insight into your nature. For me, it finally put into words how I felt inside. The MBTI gave me the tools to explain to others how I function best and how to treat me to get maximum results. It also showed me how my behavior affects others and what I can do to communicate more effectively.

    Then there is also the spiritual route. Connecting to your higher self is a great way to understand your mission. Astrology is a wonderful tool to get the blueprint to your soul – what are you meant to do here on earth? What are your strengths? And I’m not talking about reading your daily horoscope. I’m talking about doing a full birth chart analysis. Gene Keys, Human Design – they’re all great ways to connect to Source and find out more about your soul and how to navigate this human experience.

    Whatever route you choose – do everything in your power to know WHO you are at your core.

    Coaching

    You don’t need to figure out life by yourself. Invest in a couple of sessions with a coach. That’s what I did! Friends and family are great resources and people to discuss your life with, but they’re not going through the same process as you. Plus, because they’re so close to you, they might not give you the tough love you need.

    A coach can hand you all the tools you need to step up. Most of the time, a coach has already gone through the things you’re experiencing right now. They know how to get through it with success. Coaches don’t teach you their ways, but they guide you by asking the right questions so that you can figure out what’s best for your situation. Having someone by your side who holds you accountable and is there for support is genuinely a nice feeling. You feel supported & heard!

    Define your purpose

    We are human beings not human doings. So, who exactly are you when you’re not at your job? What sets your soul on fire? And no, I’m not talking about passions/hobbies. Again, that’s human doing not being.

    What do you value most in life? Why do you do what you do? What gets you out of bed in the morning? What qualities do you enjoy expressing?

    What does your intuition say? When did you last experience pure joy? When you add up all of these joyful experiences, what is the common denominator?

    Lots of questions…Lean into it. Read books, listen to podcasts – heck, visit a Tony Robbins conference. When I first got into personal development, I would wake up and go to bed with Tony. Not literally. But you get the point. Invest in finding your purpose.

    Break the cycle – find career bliss

    Listen, one thing’s for sure: you’re not the only one. Everyone in their life has wondered what the f* they’re doing here on earth. It’s just that 30 years ago we called it midlife crisis. Now it’s the millennial problem. And really, who can blame us? There are so many options for us. We can basically open a laptop and start a business. We don’t need to work 9-5 for 50+ years. We have so much freedom, so much choice. But with choice, comes great responsibility.

    Don’t freeze up, get some help! Talk about it. Together we can figure out what your next steps are going to be!

    Need help? Don’t hesitate to reach out.

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    Learning to unlearn – the process of letting go of limiting beliefs

    Learning to unlearn – repeat it to yourself a couple of times. It’s such a powerful phrase. This week, this phrase crossed my path 3 times. I saw it on Pinterest (lol), I read it in a book and Adam Roa reminded me of it in an online webinar. So it’s only fitting that it’s this week’s topic of my morning musings.

    Limiting beliefs….what?

    When you’re born, you’re a blank canvas. You’ve heard that before. It’s just your body & soul. Along the way, we’re influenced by society, parents, culture, religion, friends…Everything you think – your patterns & beliefs – are taught to you. People taught you about “right” and “wrong”. And because you don’t know any better as a child, these things become your truth.

    For example, when we were told off by our parents, we interpret that what we did as “bad”. We remember and try not to do it again. This interpretation is stored in the brain & turns into a thought. The thought repeats itself until it becomes a belief. ⁠And the belief then manifests itself into your life because you act on it.

    Some of these beliefs serve us. They work for us. They make us a better person and get us ahead in life. Other beliefs, however, limit our growth. Some examples of limiting beliefs that I’ve encountered in my life:

    • money doesn’t grow on trees
    • it’s difficult to generate money
    • relationships are hard
    • work isn’t always fun
    • as a woman, you’re considered a slut if you enjoy sex

    What do we do with limiting beliefs?

    At one point or another, you’re going to have experiences that question these beliefs. It feels like you’ve hit a wall in your life. You’re not getting ahead. This can take form in a few ways: maybe you’ve experienced burnout, had a series of failed relationships or have been dissatisfied with your career for years.

    So then if you want to change these circumstances, you need to take a good, hard look at the stories you’ve been telling yourself around these issues.

    Let’s take burnout as an example. It’s really easy to point fingers and say: I’m burnt out because my work is super stressful and busy. But what about looking at the stories you’ve been telling yourself?

    Maybe you were taught that “people who work hard make more money”. So you’re here working your butt cheeks off, making extra hours, taking on extra responsibility just to prove yourself, only because you think that if you work harder, the reward is bigger.

    Unlearn patterns & beliefs that don’t serve you

    Do you see how the example above does not serve you? Instead of believing that working hard means making more money, maybe you could start telling yourself a different story to avoid burnout. Something like “money flows to me easily”, “it’s safe to ask for help” or “I am worthy of success and joy”. What you upgrade your story to depends on your current story.

    Unlearn the things that limit your growth & happiness.

    It’s easier said than done though. Unlearning means critically looking at your behavior and thoughts. It also means looking critically at ideas that have been taught to you by people you love, like your parents, or your culture/religion. Saying that you’re no longer accepting their beliefs as your truth can be a painful process. Not everyone is going to be able to understand why you’re questioning their beliefs. Especially if these beliefs serve them well. You’re really shaking up the status quo.

    How do we unlearn?

    Identify – you first need to identify what stories you’ve been telling yourself around many areas in your life: love, money, career, sex, relationships, spirituality, your body, your intelligence, your health — and lots more.

    Analyze – what purpose do the stories serve in your life? What did they mean to you in your past? Do they empower you or not? What did these beliefs teach you?

    Unlearn & Upgrade – generate new stories that serve you. How can you upgrade your beliefs so that they serve you and allow you to be the best version of yourself?

    Implement & Relearn – now it’s time to actively catch yourself every time you think of old beliefs. Implement and relearn by using affirmations, or posting post-it notes on your mirror. Surround yourself with these upgrades!

    Learning to unlearn

    Learning to unlearn is powerful. I know from from my own experience that it’s a BEAUTIFUL process. Scary, but beautiful. The process opens up your mind and allows you to see the same situation from different perspectives. It releases judgement. You’re basically reprogramming your own human experience. Changing & shaping your future!

    And let me tell you, if it takes 30 years to learn something, it’s totally ok to take a long time to unlearn something. Self-love and patience are required when you’re stepping into this process.

    Do you have any stories you tell yourself that you would like to unlearn? Or do you need help identifying the stories? Let me know & we can dive into this together. With much love of course.

    You’re an amazing human & soul. You are here to learn! We’re in this school of life together. Let’s make sure we graduate <3

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    Life after quarantine: what lessons have we learned? The “new normal”.

    Well…2020 has been quite the ride. I think we can all agree that being in lockdown has been an extraordinary experience. All negativity aside, how often do we get a chance in life to hit pause for 3 months? Ordered so by the government? I think – at least, I hope – it’s a one time thing.

    During these past 3 months, we had the divine opportunity to take a critical look at our lives. Before lockdown began, my life was Busy (with a capital B). My days were filled from 8am until 11pm. Rushing to meetings at 9. Traveling 1,5 hours for work. Coming home only to open my laptop again. Friends, family, dating, working out, cooking. Like I said, Busy.

    And I know I’m not special in that sense. Everyone’s life looks like that, somewhat.

    Not being allowed to go to work, events & grocery shopping, all of a sudden chunks of my day opened up! So much more free time.

    Because, let’s be honest — no one worked for 8 hours straight at home….

    What did you learn from lockdown?

    The number 1 thing that changed for me personally was all of the time I suddenly had leftover. Time I couldn’t spend with friends or family or sitting in cafés. I had to find other uses for my time.

    And I did! I started:

    • meditating
    • taking beach walks 3-4 times a week
    • journaling more
    • drawing/doodling
    • taking an online course
    • reading the books I bought but never opened
    • …Netflixing again
    • cooking
    • working out at home (yoga & Salty Club)

    That’s quite the list if I sum it up…pat on the back for me!

    What did you learn? How did you spend all of this extra time? What would you like to continue doing now that lockdown has been (mostly) lifted?

    Did you feel better when you had less things to do? What activities did you enjoy doing? How can you incorporate these activities in your “old” day-to-day life?

    The “new normal” – what will yours look like?

    These past 3 months have given me the opportunity to look at life differently. ⠀
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    Why was I always in a rush to get to meetings at 9am sharp? ⠀
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    Why didn’t I enforce my boundaries of personal time? ⠀
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    Now that the world is getting a little healthier day by day (we’re still not there yet & there are a million other issues), I wonder why we’re in such a hurry to get back to “normal”….whatever that is…⠀
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    I wonder, what lessons can we learn from this lockdown to shape our “new normal”? ⠀
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    It can be little things.⠀
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    Like taking a walk during lunch break so we can spend more time outside. ⠀
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    Ask our boss for a standard work-from-home morning/afternoon.⠀
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    Prioritize health, wellness & spirituality over Friday night drinks in bars. 

    Take life slow, my friend. Time is the only non-renewable resource! SPEND IT WISELY.

    As always, much love from my side of the screen. You are seen, you are heard and you are most definitely loved.

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    What does living in the now mean?

    At the moment I am reading a book called Loyalty to your Soul. The Heart of Spiritual Psychology by Ronald & Mary Hulnick. I highly recommend this book if you’re into spiritual psychology because it explains the concept in great detail. And I recently read a passage about living in the now.

    Listen here

    Whenever I heard that phrase, I never understood the true meaning of it. Living in the now sounded like a woo-woo concept. Am I not supposed to worry about all of the groceries I have to do tomorrow? Or that work deadline next week? Am I just to forget the past and focus on the sensations here and now? Hearing that phrase always made me think of a person sitting in lotus position, meditating on a blanket.

    Does this sound like something you picture when you hear the phrase living in the now?

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    What I thought living in the now looked like….

    In order to understand what living in the now really means, we need to cover a few things:

    The school called LIFE

    To me, and many people agree with me, our lives here on earth are just a bunch of human experiences added together. These experiences together are a curriculum – life is meant for learning. We’re meant to learn from every experience.

    Whenever we feel anger, sadness, fear, resistance – it’s an indication that you need to work through a lesson. The universe is sending you experiences that are uncomfortable (most of the time) so that you can learn from it, and therefore grow.

    what does a “lesson” look like then?

    Here’s a real life example from my work life

    A few years ago, I was at a work meeting and one of my colleagues stole my idea and presented it as his own. Worst part: my boss loved the idea and gave him all the credit. As you can imagine, I was angry AF. I did all the research, added my creativity and came up with a solution. And he gets all the credit? WTF.

    There were 2 things I could do:

    1. Blame him. I could confront him and tell him he stole my idea and that it was wrong.

    This option is called “victim-mode”. I am blaming someone/something else for my discomfort & anger.

    2. Confront myself. I need to confront my own ego and ask myself: what is causing this anger inside of me? What could I have done differently?

    This is the more difficult option. It’s hard to look in the mirror and say to yourself that you need to learn a lesson here and take responsibility for the actions.

    At the time, I chose option 1.

    Right now, I would choose option 2.

    What option 2 looks like:

    The reason I was angry was because I was too insecure to speak up during the meeting. I didn’t believe in my idea and therefore didn’t share it. I was afraid to be judged by my colleagues thinking that it was a stupid idea. In college, I remember sharing my thoughts and being shutdown by one of my classmates who laughed at my answer. I saw this as a negative experience. My mind remembered this and stored a new file called Don’t speak up in class/meetings, just keep thoughts to yourself and work them out in your private time until you are 100% sure they’re amazing and successful.

    So, no, I was not angry because he stole my idea, I was angry because of the reasoning above.

    Lesson learned: share your ideas. Stop worrying about what other people think. Grow some balls and speak up.

    Did you not learn the lesson? The universe will come back and teach you again. Until you master it…..

    Ever notice certain patterns in your life (your love life, for example….)? That means you’ve not mastered the lesson. #whoops.

    Back to living in the now. This is the definition:

    If we believe life is a string of learning experiences, the thing that we can do NOW is choose to respond differently to the given situation (the lesson).

    Living in the now means taking the personal responsibility to evaluate and react to the present moment and choosing a response that serves your purpose and is aligned with your Highest Self.

    Accept that all things in life are happening FOR you instead of TO you.

    Let that sink in for a moment.

    You have a choice to respond differently to any given situation than you have before. Once you choose to confront your own ego instead of blaming others/outside sources for your emotions, you will master your lesson.

    What are you choosing NOW?

    What can you do NOW to ensure you grow?

    What lesson are you supposed to be learning NOW so that you can shape your future more positively?

    Big questions, right?

    You can do it

    If you ever want to talk about issues you’re facing, or maybe you’re not sure what the universe is trying to teach you. Let’s go over it together. Confronting the ego is a scary thing to do, and maybe it helps to talk about it and do it together with someone who is able to guide you. To ensure it won’t turn into a total sh*t show haha.

    I’m here for you. Let’s chat.

    As always, much love from my side of the screen. You are seen. You are heard and you are loved! <3

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    Insta Universe podcast – Episode 12 – Beat overwhelm

    Today’s a short episode. Something you’re not used to from me 😉 I tend to ramble for over an hour. But I felt really inspired to share some insight with you regarding overwhelm.

    In order to succeed, you need to take action on your dreams. And so you start to ask yourself:

    • How do I start a business?
    • How do I leave my 9-5 job?
    • How do I create an online course?

    Problem with these questions is that they are way TOO big and cause stress. Because you’re like “where the f* do I start?”. That’s when you can make an important mindset shift. You need to ask yourself different questions.

    Key takeaways from Episode 12 from the Insta Universe

    • What questions you need to ask yourself in order to tackle your to-do list
    • How to get in a state of excitement that fuels your motivation
    • Small mindset shifts you can make to move the needle ahead in your business
    • It’s 100% ok to start small, as long as you’re moving forward
    • Overwhelm is beautiful, it means you have goals and dreams – GO YOU!!

    Thank you for listening, you’re the best!

    I am so grateful you tune into the Insta Universe podcast! I always strive to share valuable information with you. If you have any questions or topics I should cover, please don’t hesitate to send me your requests. The Insta Universe podcast is an extension of my coaching business and completely free. You would really help me if you could share the podcast with your friends/colleagues, subscribe or leave a review on iTunes!

    Much love from my side of the screen,

    Gillian